It informs me that one thing had been incorrect in her own relationship and she discovered one to be a much better option since you had been exciting (which new relationships are) and there is no dissatisfaction (since you hadn’t held it’s place in a longterm relationship yet). Aim being, she didn’t function with her emotions or problems with her ex – she simply jumped right from the relationship to your arms – so that they are most likely still lingering.
Don’t blame other individuals for the alternatives. You cheated and you’re making it seem like it absolutely was her fault. It wasn’t. You chose to cheat. It does not make a difference just exactly just what she ended up being doing, she didn’t make that option for you. Furthermore, simply since you cheated, you aren’t in charge of her choices. She actually is deciding to do whatever she does, along with nothing at all to do with her choices.
It’s important to just just take ownership for the own alternatives, particularly at our age, and particularly when you need to cease winning contests and relax into a grownup relationship that makes you are feeling pleased.
Nobody’s ideal, but that’s not a justification to disrespect each other or harmed one another.
In my experience, then you are going to either have to find a way to accept it or leave the relationship if you can’t handle the ex’s being in the picture, and she’s not willing or able to cut them out.